..how to love your husband well.....not all of us had the privilege of growing up with parents that were good role models for what a good wife and a good husband is... we have to learn it the hard way, through trial and error, marriage seminars, counselling and the very hard way even...
I learned many things after I became a Christian and the Bible became my reference... the place with all the answers to life's questions...
In Ephesians 5 we read:
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her .
Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
1 Peter 3 adds this:
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Learned what marriage is: a union of man and woman, equally valued by God, made for different roles but the authority and with this the responsibility and accountability to God ultimately lies with the husband... This is not meant to be a card blanche for the husband to dictate and boss around his wife, not at all, it also does not diminish the value of the opinions and convictions of the wife, as helpmate she is called to speak into the life of her husband, lovingly giving her input...
respecting Him... letting him have the last word , trusting God, who is sovereign, and in authority over us all..
and then finally... the revelation: another scripture..
Love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs, Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails...
Praying through it.. asking God to reveal where I was failing... it is a high calling, but if this is our prayer daily, asking God to help us to love our husbands like this.. I think we have a good chance of making it... building something that will last and succeed in creating a safe and healthy place for our children to grow up... there is tremendous blessing in being obedient to God...
